- Adoration sucks. Usually this means that the adorer has some construct in his mind about you. This does most likely not have anything to do with who you are. You can only disappoint the adorer as they become uncomfortable with the cognitive dissonance caused by the real you.
- To find The One, you’ve go to know yourself pretty well.
- My boss recons that I would be less restless and a lot nicer if only I had a boyfriend.
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Ek raak altyd ongemaklik met sulke raad. (En ek kry dit ook, soms). Is mens dan nie nice genoeg NOU nie?!? ;-)
Seen in this light adoration is paradoxically a safeguard against narcissism.
And don't knock cognitive dissonance - it is often the trigger for changing our ideas about the world (it often being easier to adjust our beliefs than to change our behavior - like your own rationalization of smoking)